Healing Abandonment: A Path to Self-Trust and Sovereignty
Recognizing Self-Abandonment
We abandon ourselves when we:
Don't ask for what we need
Overconnect to other people's emotions
Fail to set boundaries
Neglect our own needs
People-please at our own expense
Carry guilt or shame over our choices
Doubt our inner wisdom
Allow mistreatment from others
React impulsively instead of observing
Fail to live our truth
Comply with others' demands to keep the peace
Avoid conflict rather than speak up
Fear rejection and let it dictate our actions
What Do You Need Right Now?
Take a moment to ask yourself: What is one thing I need right now?
It could be:
Space
Trust
Quiet
Alone time
A drive
Music
A meal
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Exercises to Reclaim Yourself
1. Ask and Receive
Practice asking for one thing per day.
Allow others to give it in their own way and receive it with appreciation.
Release expectations—conditions on receiving block true abundance.
2. Observe and Self-Parent
Notice when you're triggered and explore why.
Take responsibility for your reactions.
Express your needs from a place of sovereignty, not victimhood.
3. Ground and Set Boundaries
Take 3 deep breaths.
Imagine an anchor dropping from your root chakra into the earth.
Visualize a sapphire blue energy tube running along your spine.
Circulate the energy through your body, forming a protective field around you.
Strengthen this boundary to maintain your personal space.
4. Practice Non-Reactivity
When triggered, use a neutral expression and do not react.
If necessary, pivot and walk away.
5. Address Unacceptable Behavior
Identify why something is not okay for you.
Calmly express your boundary, or disengage if needed.
6. Center Yourself
Use the 3-minute grounding meditation anytime you feel unbalanced.
Focus on changing your own behaviors, not others'.
Finding the Root of Abandonment
Start with Grounding
Always begin with the 3-minute meditation.
This helps distinguish your emotions from external influences.
Reflect on Past Abandonment
When was the first time you felt abandoned?
When did you first abandon yourself?
How did this pattern begin?
Identify where this pattern still plays out—family, friendships, work, self-responsibility. Avoid victimizing yourself; you are simply recognizing patterns so you can shift them.
If guilt or shame arises, return to the meditation. Shame and guilt hold the pattern in place—release them to facilitate healing.
Build Self-Trust
Make a quick decision, own it, and follow through. This reassures your nervous system that you can trust yourself.
Do something that aligns with your truth, regardless of others' opinions.
Try something new—this fosters trust in your ability to navigate discomfort.
Mantras for Reclaiming Yourself
I am safe and connected.
I trust the universe and myself.
My soul knows what is best for me, and I choose to listen.
I am safe in this moment. This moment is all that exists.
Releasing the Past
If you want a new reality, you must stop carrying the past with you. Old patterns reawaken trauma and emotions that no longer serve you.
Align with the person you want to become and act accordingly.
Observe yourself as your highest self and step into that role.
Cultivate grace, love, peace, understanding, and compassion.
Acknowledge fears, then set them aside.
Explore the origins of your emotions—are they truly yours, or are they inherited from family, society, or past lives?
Remember: You cannot change what you refuse to acknowledge.
By honoring your needs, setting boundaries, and trusting yourself, you reclaim the power that was always yours. Embrace the journey to wholeness with courage and self-compassion.
Share Your Thoughts: Have you experienced self-abandonment? What practices help you reclaim your power? Drop a comment below and let's support each other on this journey!